So after not being able to get any sleep last night, I got a call from my mum at 4am and decided not to answer it. I’m assuming it was to do with my recent post relating to her, but I have nothing to say to her regarding that or otherwise. I’m not going to have threats flung at me when I know for sure I haven’t done anything wrong in posting what I have, which is backed up by documented evidence.
She has repeatedly threatened to seek an “order” against me. However, she’s mistaken if she believes a court order would be appropriate, given that much of the relevant history is already documented within care records disclosed to me. There is also a more recent threat that is recorded verbatim within disclosed care and risk documentation below.
Even if an order were sought, it would not prevent me from writing about my own past. UK courts generally recognise the right of individuals to speak about their lived experiences where statements are factual and evidenced. Despite this being recorded, no effective action followed, leaving yet another incident in my timeline where meaningful justice was not provided.
I both did and didn’t want to make this post. It’s been sitting heavily with me for a long time, and I reached a point where I needed to say it. My parents continue to present themselves as faultless and have suggested that therapy should be about learning how to “get on” with the family, by which they appear to mean learning how to be treated badly without ever speaking back or responding. Much of this history is already evidenced within my care notes, including the emotional abuse I experienced while living with them.
Later today/tomorrow I’m going to collect further extracts from those records so that they can be referenced to provide clarity, so readers do not assume my experiences are limited to only the most recent incidents, which, however serious, do not come close to reflecting the full picture. I was initially concerned that not just this page, but others such as those relating to medical professionals who assaulted me, could be framed as harassment. However, harassment requires a course of conduct intended to cause distress. This site is not used to actively target anyone, it documents what happened and then moves on. Its purpose is therapeutic, and the response from others has largely been supportive.
I was asked by someone whether I had considered how this might affect other people’s families. My answer was simple: no such consideration was given to how these events would affect me long-term when they occurred. I’m done explaining myself. The police are not family enforcers and do not exist to resolve personal disputes or punish people for speaking about their own experiences. At most, matters like this are civil and will be logged as such.
I have not published personal data beyond records disclosed to me via a Subject Access Request. Any information I should not have received should have been redacted prior to disclosure, and concerns about that sit with the relevant information governance team. People without viable legal routes tend to make the most noise, those with actual legal remedies use solicitors to pursue them.